Learning the Rhythm. 1.3

You learn things when you go home for the holidays.

This year. I learned A LOT.

I am definitely allergic to gluten.

Eating things filled with gluten even though you think they aren’t, but you really didn’t double check, because you did ask beforehand and you trust your friends enough to tell you, but maybe we all didn’t really know, will still result in getting REALLY sick. Like not able to eat Christmas dinner sick.

Anyways... 

People change. But the person that changes the most is yourself. I know, totally introspective right? (sarcastic coughing inserted here)

But here is the thing, do we really change? Or is it that we just become stronger in our values, morals, ethics, and beliefs? Are we more confident in them? Or for some, are we less confident, resulting in an outpouring of harsh comments, and rude statements about others behind their backs?

And as an aside, I have fully come to a realization which has freed me from the agony of wonder and worry, who cares what people say about you behind your back?

Most of what they say isn’t true, so why worry about it? Yes it is hard to hear things said about you, and hear them from people whom you thought had had your back at one point in time, but really, more than likely it isn’t true, and if you know the truth why bother with anything else? If what they are saying is true, then you have a problem, and should you be over the age of eighteen, you should find an adult way to handle it. If it comes down to it, Costco sells 36 rolls of toilet paper for nine dollars.

I do not condone that kind of behavior thought (fake serious face, with underlying truth to the statement -- I may have in high school).

So here’s the thing about coming home for the holidays well after graduating from college:

You start to find out who the real people in your life are. It becomes simple; you learn your passions, your convictions your true morals, beliefs and values. Take the time to do this. And you find those that support you in your life. And those to return support to as well. Even within your family, you find a deeper kind of kinship that only the two of you will know.

Whoever it is, you can tell by the glisten in their eyes

I am lucky and not only have a big family family, but a huge sized friend family too. And over the years it has lost a few members I am sure, but the important ones stay, and the important ones are always added too.

It excites me the way this new year has started. We are only three days in and already, I have learned so much, met so many new people, and rekindled old friendships i have missed. 

 Finding the rhythm is the hardest part.